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Most of us have some sort of family. If we do not it can be because they have passed or because we are divorced. We had some sort of family of origin. Most of us that is. Whether we were raised by our birth, adoptive, step, foster parent, grand-parent or aunt, someone was responsible for our care until we were the legal age in the U. S. of eighteen.
With our most diverse and varied population from different parts of the world, family customs are all different. The clan consists of a blood tie from one generation to another. You were automatically connected to a clan who was related by blood.
Today, some of us knew our great grandparents if they lived long enough and close in proximity. Only stories and tales passed down from generation to generation allow us to to know who these people were. They could have been the same religion as you, or different. The simple truth is that we all had some story of origin.
We may have learned along the way from friends and elders to help form the unique person we have become. We have become a “melting pot” full of new ideas and easier ways to live as technology has progressed.
It is not always easy to stay connected physically when our family of origin has been separated by distance. A cherished phone call, email, or letter is always our form of communication. Besides that, we can simply think about that person and wish them well.
Disagreements and resentments set in, too, once in awhile when words can become misconstrued. We don't want to harbor those differences for too long because you just never know when, if ever, you will see that individual again. Also, a simple disagreement can become a huge mountain of anxiety which forms a barrier to reconcile. Your disagreement most likely affects more people than just you and that person. You may even be inclined to lie to your immediate family about the situation which caused the shift of energy between your relative or friend and you.
Many disagreements are actually caused by jealousy. To envy another person is healthy. To be jealous of another person is unhealthy. Which of these two words can you see fueled the fire in your loss of friendship with that person? Or are you the type of person who simply uses another person until your needs are met? When they are met, are you then off finding new friends to share and have them care for you?