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Where Do Unborn Babies Go?

Time after time, during a Medium or Personal reading, someone will ask me about
the unborn baby they lost many years ago. They want to know the gender it was and
where he or she is now. Being concerned about any child starts at conception. Maybe that was not the case at the time, but as we mature we want to know all of the details of what might have been and how that child would have impacted our lives had he or she lived.

Some clients ask about a miscarriage their mother had. From what I know as a Medium, these miscarried or aborted babies are raised in heaven. Yes, they are raised and cared for by “spiritual beings” to adulthood. They will know who their earthly parents are when our life on earth is finished.

So many parents had their pregnant girls' babies given up for adoption to remove guilt and shame from the family. Others gave up their own children because they could not financially afford them. Years later, the wonder begins as to where the child is, if he or she has been taken care of, and whether or not they can be found or communicated with. When they are found by the biological parent(s), this causes a stir within the child's now adult life and that of their adoptive parents. Explanations come forward as to how and why these babies were given to strangers to be loved and cared for.

It is a bitter sweet encounter. The first question being, “Why did you give me away?” The next question is “Do I have brothers and sisters?” and then “Does my brother or sister know about me?” “When will I meet them?” Now the child's parents who adopted and loved them to adulthood have to learn to share. Oh boy, how do we come to terms with all of this and learn to share our child with the estranged biological parent(s)? What is the right thing to do in this situation?

Statistics say that 60% of children in foster care spend 2-5 years in the system before being adopted. Almost 20% spend five or more years in foster care before being
adopted. Some never get adopted. Of the 400,000 children in foster care in the U. S.,
114,556 cannot be returned to their families and are waiting to be adopted. Males
outnumber females and half are 6 years old or older.

Only about 2 percent of Americans have actually adopted, but more than 1/3 have considered. U S. citizens completed 19,942 international adoptions in 2007, which declined to 9,319 in 2011 as international adoptions became more restrictive. Almost 60-70% of domestic adoptions are now open adoptions, which means there is a degree of openness and disclosure of information between adoptive and birth parents regarding the adopted child. Around 7 million Americans are adopted.
Approximately 140,000 children are adopted by American families each year. Nearly 100 million Americans have adoption in their immediate family, whether this includes adopting, placing, or being adopted. 6-10 Americans have had personal experience with adoption, meaning that they themselves, a family member, or a close friend was adopted, had an adopted a child, or had placed a child for adoption.

There are 1.5 million adopted children in the United States, which is 2% of the population, or one out of 50 children. 62% of children are placed with their adoptive families within a month of birth. About 135,000 children are adopted in the U.S. per year. 59% are from the child welfare or foster system, 26% are from other countries and 15% are voluntarily relinquished American babies. Between 1 & 2 million couples are waiting to adopt. With all of that said, we know how important a baby is to us. We will not include the abortion rate in this.