Relationship Stages


“I am infatuated with you!”   INFATUATION of the meeting.  You are so happy you met him or her, finally the right person you think.  Your head is in the clouds thinking about the person.  Reality sets in.  You do not know them. You do not know their history. Are they honest, trustworthy, handle money well, clean, and have an even temper? How do they handle people,  relatives, children and friends? What was their upbringing like? What did they have to deal with growing up? Can they express love?  How do they deal with anger? Were they abused? If so, how do they respond to the triggers involved in abuse? We all grow and learn.  Do they own their own actions and thoughts?   While your head is in the clouds, ask yourself these questions before moving on.

DISCOVERY; Now is the time to learn or know if this person can and will fill your needs regardless of your differences.  Now you have talked and shared your stories. Regardless of your experiences, the question is can he or she fill my needs? Not just sexual but emotional, financial, social, and spiritual compatibility, having a joint agreement on friends and family.  

MONOGAMY; This is the stage of security and confidence.  It is the knowing that you are with the right person. It is a comfortable stage.  Now keep up the communication to avoid misthinking about how the other thinks. 

CONFLICT;  After you have dedicated yourselves to each other, conflict may arise in deciding who controls the relationship.  Equalizing the relationship between two people is the key to keeping your own identity.

Compromise is the key to deciding what to do about the issues in question.  Respect each other even in conflict to obtain a resolution.

STABILITY;  from growth between each other. You have helped each other grow individually and in your partnership.  You have communicated your own needs as you compromised with your partner.  Both of you now feel comfortable and supported by each other in your relationship.

LOVE THAT IS MATURE;  This love comes from maturity, comfort, sexual chemistry, communication, and feeling secure with each other.  To maintain this mature love, communication, and intimacy are necessary.  

THE FINAL STAGE OF A RELATIONSHIP;  This is not always a happy stage.  It includes the death or illness of a partner, close family member, or friend.  It may include loss of some part of one's health especially memory loss, loss of a position or job, loss of property, the truth comes out that one or both is having an affair or has had one.  The only way known to God or man in these scenarios is understanding, forgiveness, and the will to go on.

What stage of a relationship are you presently in?

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